When randomly an old conversation with someone pops up in your head and you suddenly start thinking that you must've used the wrong words or that someone must've perceived your part of the conversation in some wrong way due to which that someone can form certain false and erroneous opinions about you... And, just then it strikes you.... How does that opinion matter?
If that someone is not someone important then even if he/she has fathomed you in an erring manner, it shouldn't matter.
I always want to be taken in the right way. I always want everyone, whom I interact with, to be perfectly perceptive to whatever I utter. And this 'want' of mine has always been a subject of botheration. But. gradually as the time has passed I've learnt how to desist this habit... Though I still get those pangs but then as I just mentioned, they are only short-lived pangs!
Judgment free and non-dogmatic world has never existed and will never exist! I too do it, at times. I guess, that's how we are wired. So, I may often whine as to why to people have to be so opinionated... but I know, there's no prevention for it; although there is a cure, which is IGNORANCE!
Also,
Once I was having a conversation with a friend, where I argued that beauty and outward appearance are excessively over-rated. My friend said that it of course cannot be ignored and everyone whether knowingly or unknowingly is biased, in a way, towards beauty.
I had to agree. When we first meet a person, it's his/her outward appearance that we can first see. So, the first ever nano-thought that comes to our mind about him/her will be based on how that person looks. It has always been that way.
But, I reminded my friend that I never said it should be ignored, I said it is over-rated. Which is true.
Beauty is always appreciated. And, why shouldn't it be so? It's always good to be appreciative, especially, towards something that truly is praise-worthy. But, when it is given unnecessary excessive importance, it becomes ugly!
Anyway, it's all very subjective.
*Sigh*
Still struggling with things. Ohh God....Please help me help myself!! Jeez.. I am such a hard nut to crack, when it comes to certain things!!
A month and a half left!
If that someone is not someone important then even if he/she has fathomed you in an erring manner, it shouldn't matter.
I always want to be taken in the right way. I always want everyone, whom I interact with, to be perfectly perceptive to whatever I utter. And this 'want' of mine has always been a subject of botheration. But. gradually as the time has passed I've learnt how to desist this habit... Though I still get those pangs but then as I just mentioned, they are only short-lived pangs!
Judgment free and non-dogmatic world has never existed and will never exist! I too do it, at times. I guess, that's how we are wired. So, I may often whine as to why to people have to be so opinionated... but I know, there's no prevention for it; although there is a cure, which is IGNORANCE!
Also,
Once I was having a conversation with a friend, where I argued that beauty and outward appearance are excessively over-rated. My friend said that it of course cannot be ignored and everyone whether knowingly or unknowingly is biased, in a way, towards beauty.
I had to agree. When we first meet a person, it's his/her outward appearance that we can first see. So, the first ever nano-thought that comes to our mind about him/her will be based on how that person looks. It has always been that way.
But, I reminded my friend that I never said it should be ignored, I said it is over-rated. Which is true.
Beauty is always appreciated. And, why shouldn't it be so? It's always good to be appreciative, especially, towards something that truly is praise-worthy. But, when it is given unnecessary excessive importance, it becomes ugly!
Anyway, it's all very subjective.
*Sigh*
Still struggling with things. Ohh God....Please help me help myself!! Jeez.. I am such a hard nut to crack, when it comes to certain things!!
A month and a half left!
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