In the light of positivism...

It's so easy to be negative. Being negative about those important ones in your life, about those important events in your life, about those moments that haven't yet transpired but they just might and... about your ownself! 


What is arduous and tough... is being positive! Being positive about those important ones in your life, about those important events in your life, about those moments that haven't yet transpired but they just might and... about your ownself! 


As they say, it's the tougher and onerous road that leads you to the right thing! Positivism can never mislead you!


I don't know how many have actually discerned that thinking negatively is actually a cinch! I myself took a very long time to learn this (circa 21 yrs)... But then as I always say, better late than never! And since that day, when I veritably had this epiphany, being positive has not been all that difficult and it gives me strength, to deal with issues and most importantly, to deal with myself!


Then there are those silly negativity pangs that come to you, after all you are a human! And it's all up to you, how you deal with it... do you let that poisonous and baleful moment take over your mind and make you do wrong things and wrong talks OR you somehow with a little calmness and patience manage to combat it so that no one gets hurt!


"Do not be satisfied with the stories that come before you. Unfold your own myth."- Jalalludin Rumi


Just always be grateful to God for what you have rather than blaming Him for what He hasn't provided you with! Before holding Him culpable, look at yourself and contemplate for a moment, 'Do I really deserve what I am demanding from Him?'
It will do a world of good to you! 

Fully Loaded!

Sheww!
Okay so... One day after ages I talk to people and interact a little and here I am loaded with behemothic & colossal amount of information to handle, out which some is supposed to be a secret!
Haha...  Ohhh Good God... it's really too much for me to handle... too many mixed emotions and feelings! I really tried to vent it all out by writing out all what I felt, everywhere possible because I couldn't say out loud but it still didn't leave my mind alone so here I am blogging it out!
I feel funny! I am just smiling and laughing in awe!
Shit man... Mr God is really awesome at his job of making life so damn unpredictable! I seriously can't stop laughing! The event that has happened is not even close to funny but I am finding it to be so! Only I know the reason (and Mr God, Of course)! ;) :P

Sigh... Everyone out there (and by everyone I mean EVERYONE) is looking for love or falling in love or making love! Haha.... No offense to anyone but I find it a little tickling! No, not that I am saying it's wrong or anything so don't get me wrong... just that everyone I've spoken to today since noon, has spoken on this subject or things that linger around this subject!

Man... It's like an overdose!
Either love and relationships are really over-rated by everyone or I under-rate them (at times)... One out of the two is certainly correct!

I did not study the entire day and I am feeling guilty about it because with the amount of portion left I should be licking my books and swallowing each word in them like crazy but unfortunately I am not doing it... nonetheless I shall do that now on...

Oh my! It was one mad day but now that it's gone I should concentrate on the eminently important thing i.e. my big exam!


To one of my super bestie... I love that you consider me SO important in your life and I also love to be prioritized (who doesn't!) ... so please continue doing that, okay!! Love you loads, always and forever! 

It's been weeks and Adele has been on my playlist incessantly, love her voice!
So long bloggy doggy!

P.S.: I HATE SUMMER!! IT AGGRAVATES ME EVEN INDOORS!

Just a reminder of my existence!!! ;)

Being socially dysfunctional is not a big deal! I hope people stop making it one!

A piece of a preposterous conversation with a preposterous freak::
S.O.B.: Ohho... you keep your phone switched off and avoid socializing! You are heading for a rank...


Me: No, nothing like that I am in total contact with the ones I want to be in touch with! Moreover I am not even through with my portion once yet...still trying to scrape through it somehow...
[Inner Me: Shut the fuck up and mind your own business!!]


S.O.B.: What is the point in shutting off the world like that? 


Me: I haven't turned my back to the entire world as such... I don't want to get any distractions as it is I always try to sneak out of studying so these are kinda self imposed restrictions so that I at least manage to clear... and as I said I still am in very good contact with a few friends!
[Inner Me: I like doing that! Do you have a problem with that you moronic chump?! Why do you want to scrutinize my life and my actions? Take the hint .... I don't wanna talk to you! Wait a minute... why am I giving any sort of clarifications?! Resh hush-up! Stop talking!!]


S.O.B.: Very determined I must say! But you always do this... kuch hua nai ki phone band! You love switching off the phone kya?


Me: No re... I seldom do that.... Now, this is your perspective , I can't really help it!
[Inner Me: So what! Why the hell is it bothering you so much?! Ohh dude... Please kill yourself...please just shoot yourself right now!!]


S.O.B: Perspective?! Where did that come from? I just listed the fact that I've come across many times...


Me: Well... if you say so... 
[Inner Me: You fucking freak... come, come sue me for shutting off that fucking phone! I am really not getting this? My life, my wish! What is your fucking problem!! aaaaaaarrrrrrgggghhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!]


S.O.B.: Gah... you'll never accept! I toh don't understand your reasons...


Me: I think it shouldn't really matter to you!! Anyway listen... something just came up so I'll catch you later... ok?
[Inner Me: Okay that's it! I am totally ticked off!!!]


S.O.B.: yaa okay... but that is if your phone will be on!!


Me: Haha... sure... Bye. Take care!
[Inner Me: You bloody fucking asshole, go to fucking hell! Mr God please break his cell-phone and his nose too... Please it's a humble request! As it is his face looks distorted, so if he like falls right on his face then that might do a little help to the poor little bastard!! So if not for my sake, at least for his betterment... please do it!]

Ohh good God ... I fail to reminisce when did I last abuse someone, in my head, so much!! Haha... but that psychotic freak deserved all of it! No, earnestly, if he would've said it all sarcastically I could've tolerated it in a better manner but he just kept genuinely criticizing me for no freaking reason and not just that... trust me, whatever I've written above is just a teaser!! 
Actually, I know a whole lot of humans who are just like him, in some way or the other.... People always love to mock you! Some of them do it harmlessly (& that 'some of them' are your friends... so that's cool) while...the rest mock you with malicious intentions! It's the 'rest' whom I'm pointing at here...  
Why are people so rancorous and sly?! I vehemently abhor every such person who even in "good humor" tries to be spiteful!!

I hate 'have tos'!

I've upgraded my blogger and yeah... it's different! I don't know in what way is this the "upgraded" version yet! Since I am not used to it, I am finding it too drab to work with!


Hmm,
So, long back when I revealed my love for writing to my bunch, they started teasing me saying "Soon you'll  be out with a book... blah..." and I used to laugh it off, giving them a "maybe".
Of course, I'd never contemplated about the idea of writing a book, earnestly... But, today I am certain about it! There is going to be no book!
Why? Well, I don't wanna state the reasons...
Also, writing is not only restricted to "books"! It's an art and it totally depends on your creativity, how you decide to play with it!  


'Devil woman' by Cliff Richard :)
I heard this song from the movie Housefull 2 on the radio today, I don't remember the lyrics or the title of the song but it is some papa song. This song is a ghastly Hindi version of 'We speak no Americano' !! It hugely sucks! Man... it's such a disgrace to the awesome original one!              


"Awareness without action is worthless" - Phil McGraw  
Something that I need to understand and IMPLEMENT!


Just sometime back I read an article by Osho. He is the first spiritual Guru, whom I've heard, promoting live-in relationships for a few years before marriage. Dude... I've started respecting this man more! Whatever things I've read, that he has written, always make sense to me. There's really lot to learn from him! No doubt Badi Mummy devoted him so religiously!
I don't understand why our society hates the idea of 'live-in' relationships! I personally believe more in live-in than marriage! There are too many 'have tos' in a marriage! Like, you have to throw these stupid wedding parties, you (girls) have to leave your parents but he still has his folks by his side, you have to stick to that person even if you realize you never loved him/her or love just never happened (because divorce is looked upon with contempt in the Indian society), you (guys) have to give huge pin-money to the wives (they should be earning themself) etc. etc. One single stupid certificate adds on too much of burden! It's like this binding obligation, which you have to fulfill and you just have to get married to be accepted by the society! 
I mean, why do you need a certificate to validate your relationship if you really love the person and if it's arranged marriage, you are stuck for the rest of your life (if at all true love never comes your way)?! 


(Again very subjective and mostly unacceptable by all!!)
Gasp, me and my exceptionally liberated ideas, I hope we find OUR space in the real world too!
Anyway,
I have to study now! 
(A month to go)
                                                                                                                                                             

Rosy picture!

Last week I was at a friend's place, I'd been there many times before but for the first time I noticed that they had a rose plant placed on their window.
I've obviously seen roses but never before had I seen a living rose blooming out of a plant.
Rose was never one of my favorites but for the first time I was in love with that flower! I was so glad and delighted to see a rose full of life! I couldn't resist clicking a few pictures from my BB!
Its charm was such that I totally overlooked the thorns until I got pricked... The plant was actually full of thorns so I couldn't really touch the flower although I tried hard to reach it...
It looked so perfect! The color, the shape, even the thorns, everything about it was flawless!

(The clicks may not be as beautiful but that's all my BB could do. But, I still love them)

to-dos & not to-dos

Today, I turned on the TV and what I see, they'd played on London Paris New York but it had reached climax till then... :(
I'm dying to watch that movie... Post exams I'm getting an original DVD of this movie. :)
Listening to its soundtrack... Bah... even the songs are adorable!
Sweet rom-coms are always fun! I love them! :)


Just today I read in a newspaper that stress makes you fat. Like there were already lesser things to make you fat!! I mean, it's so damn easy to put on weight... the couch, food, chocolates (I know it's included in food but I still wanted to write it separately!) and now stress too! That sucks!
So now, stress not only leads to hair-fall but it also makes you fat... hmmm...
Mr stupid silly mind... helloooo.. are you listening??? Stop making me fat and bald! I beg you!

I love the song 'Ahista Ahista' from Bachna ae hasino! I like the movie too! :)

I loathe when people don't return back my msgs, for stupid and invalid reasons!
Soon then, I take the pleasure of reminding myself of the times when I didn't reply to other peoples msgs for, stupid and invalid reasons!
At least my rage mellows down by doing so!

Two undeniable quotes that I stumbled on today and loved them instantaneously:
"The wise are those who try to avoid explosive situations, thus saving themselves from the trammels of confrontation." - Maulana Wahiduddin Khan.
"Peace is wrapped up in willingness to compromise" -Anonymous.

Should study now.
Toodles bloggy-doggy :*

Keeping quiet...

When the music volume on the headphones is so high that your ear drums start jumping and pumping, you feel you should turn it down a little but reducing it will open doors to those thoughts that you don't want to be thinking...

When blankness takes over.
When suddenly for no good reason, you get the blues, though you didn't do or think any such thing that would invite them... You just go quiet in your head and by quietness I don't mean peace or calmness... it's sheer silence.
Eh, that's nothing new!

Sometimes everything means so much... while sometimes everything means nothing.
It's strange, how our wantings, feelings, thoughts, reactions and behavior are completely dependent on our mood!

Amul butter- Heavenly!
Listening to 'Someday' by 'We the people'.... It used to be an inspiring number back then... but I kept listening to it a little too much and then it lost its magic. The law of diminishing marginal utility, you see. It's a great song though!

Better study!

Rightly wrong!

I feel, everyone around me is either getting married or hitched or committed. I guess, this is the age as per the Indian norms, where the girl is like a ripe mango, ready to be plucked!
(Do not read it with a perverted mind because I'm pretty serious!)


Whenever my parents come back from a social gathering, they bring up this topic of marriage. Just like we have our own peer pressure, they too have this societal peer pressure on them. Since ages, this has been prevalent in India, girls have to be put in a wedlock at an early age. This is how the system works here.


When my folks see other peoples daughters getting married at 21/22... they also feel like getting their daughter married ASAP and almost all parents are like that! They are not wrong on their part. 
It's like a marketing strategy. If one company reduces the price of their product, their competitors will also have to slash down the prices in order to maintain the competition and sustain their customers. Similarly, if there are a set of people ready to give their girls out for marriage at 21. why will any guys family go for a girl who's 25 or above?! So others to will have to get their daughters married at 21 or 22! You know, our society believes, 'younger the better'!!


I fail to understand why the society reckons marriage to be the solution for girls...
(Haha... Ipso facto, this was the topic of my first ever internet article!)


No matter how much I debate with my parents, my family or anyone... there are some rules, in the society, that we'll never be able to break completely. We can be amongst the exception but we cannot expect the society to transform its beliefs! They call it Indian culture but I beg to differ!


I can comprehend the rudiment on which "arranged marriages" ever came into being. I mean, it's good that parents and families, here in India, want their children (boy or girl) to have a partner, a family, a home! 
But, the times have changed... It is not about imitating the western culture, it is about bringing certain necessary mutations in the primitive and orthodox school of norms and beliefs! We, the human beings are evolving with every new generation coming to life... so isn't it important for the society also to evolve and move along, with us?!
I don't mean to degrade or sabotage our great Indian culture, I do value it... but here, culture is not the subject of matter... It's the societal norms and beliefs that I am speaking of!
Arranged marriages are our culture and I respect that but the age bar for the girls is not our culture! The age criterion is an obstinate and dogmatic societal creation! 
It is unjust to the girls, in a way... Maybe not all girls but to the ones like me, they are! 


The funny thing is.... some portion of our generation also believes that marriage is the solution to all their problems and it's not only the girls that I mean here, even the guys believe so!
It's like... 
Relationship troubles- I guess, I should get married!
Career failures- I think, marriage is the only thing left for me.
Family fights- I better get married! 
*gasp*
And, I kid you not, I really do know few such people! 
(Also, girls I can fathom for once, if they think like that because we've been made believe so... BUT the guys?? Now see, such guys are the official 'girl-guys'!! Haha... I am sorry, I'm not being sexist! Really!)


Well,
THEY may be right and I may be wrong here.... But then, I'm known to do things wrongly... so why should I do it right here!!! ;)

The demented duo!

It's been circa 10 years, since we've been best friends... We know each other better than we know ourselves. There are many arguments and disagreements that happen between us frequently (& most of them are prodigal) ... And that's because we are so emotionally dependent on each other... But, still we stand strong and together and we always will. Our never-ending craziness... Sanity no where exists around us! The way we discuss our most important, serious and earnest problems and decisions also with sheer sarcasm and humor..(We can never be serious!!). How we never fall short of things to talk about...Yes, you are the only person with whom I ALWAYS have things to talk... I can't remember a single time when both us had nothing to talk about! Seriously! Hahaha.. maybe because we always talk crap and the world can never go out of crap!! We might have changed in all these years but when we are together, we are always those two silly school girls, who make fun of everything and anything that comes on their way... and I cannot be more sure of the fact that this, what we have, is never gonna change!!

Waise bhi mere alava koi aur tujhe jhel nahi sakta... All thanks to my bad karma!!

A befitting quote that comes to my mind, for us:
"It's the privilege of friendship to talk nonsense, and have her nonsense respected"